Bullying Tips for Boys

Boys will be Boys: Reality, Myth and Sterotypes. 
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Boy Bullying

Beyond Bullies will be teaching specific strategies that boys can use against verbal bullying in a "classy" or "cool" fashion while receiving acceptance from their peers.  Bullying can take on many forms, ranging from name-calling, taunting to unwanted physical contact or even sexting, which can leave a target of bullying feeling very vulnerable. Name-calling is not as prevalent among female bullies as it is among males.  Here are some bullying strategies that may help you when you are called names and put down by other boys or girls.

Since we all have different personalities, it is important to understand, which strategy will work to fit who you are, when you are bullied.  These bullying strategies are meant to help you when you freeze up.

Let'start with HUMOR :)…

  1. You are told that you look like a giraffe.  How can you respond with humor?
  • Well, at least I'm not a shrmip
  • Walk away and tell no one what happened
  • I guess Michael Jordan and I have something in common
  • All of the above
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B.  You are called a geek or a herd. Using humor, how can you respond?

  • You throw a book at the bully and run
  • Look down at the floor, and wait until the bully and his friends leave
  • There are millions of people who like Star Trek, so I guess I'm not the only one
  • Haven't you heard, girls like nerds?
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​C.  A bully call you four-eyes. Using humor what is your response?

  • You think nothing you do matters and you tell no one what happened
  • These glasses see everything, even how stupid you look
  • These eyes, (point to glasses), oh, they're my protection against the ugliness in the world
  • You push the bully 
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Some people are not as comfortable with humor and are more straight forward.  It's naturally and completely normal to freeze up or feel scared or queasy when your bullied. There are phrases or words that may help you gain your composure and confidence.  Let's start with a few…

  • Cut it out
  • That's your opinion
  • What you believe is none of my business
  • Last I checked, I don't have a pussy
  • Whatever gets you high
  • I would appreciate it, if you stop spreading rumors 
  • So, I need to lose weight

 

 

Boys who call other boys pussy are cool?

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Bullies, Bystander and Targets of Bullying

 

Bullies like an audience. What does that mean? They like to have people around them when they bully others.  It's a way to demonstrate power and control over other people. While some of you have not experieced this, many people have.  The humiliation of having your basketball, wrestling team or other students present is one of the worst experiences you will have at school.  There are some incidents were the bullying is physical and there is a mob or group of violent bystanders who support the bully.  The examples below may not apply.

 

Bystanders who watch has someone is bullied will always remember how they just stood by.  Most students fear retaliation and that the bully will turn on them, if they stand up for someone who is being bullied. There are some subtle and not so subtle ways you can help a target of bullying in this situation.

 

  1. 1. Distract the bully, by asking him a question or telling him that class starts​
  2. ​2. Pull on the bullies backpack and say, let's go, we have better things to do
  3. 3. Stand next to the person being bullied
  4. 4. Say, cmon' man, we have better things to do
  5. 5. Leave him alone
  6. 6. Pick on someone your own size

 

 

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